Nancy J. Alongi, born August 26, 1958, passed away on November 30th after a multi-year battle with cancer. She was beloved by many and is survived by her husband of 45 years, Joseph; her son, Michael; her sister Lori (and husband Al); as well as her nephew and niece, Matthew and Jenna. She is predeceased by her parents, Rose Ann and Jim.

As a teenager, Nancy worked at the Northside Inn in East Rochester, where she met her husband Joe while he was volunteering for a youth football fundraiser. He was stuck in the kitchen washing dishes while Nancy was tasked with clearing the tables. They were married in front of friends and family on April 21, 1979, at St. Jerome’s Church—a date they would both cherish for years to come.

In 1987, they welcomed their son, Michael, from Korea, and she became a fiercely loving, protective, and supportive mother. She would occasionally spoil her son, such as when she would carry his saxophone a mile to music lessons while he was in fourth grade because “[his] arms hurt.”

For many years, Nancy operated a daycare out of her home in East Rochester. “Nana” (nah-nah), as she was known by the kids, always wanted them to know they were cared for and loved. Many times, she started caring for them as infants until they were able to make it to and from school on their own. Seeing the kids grow into adults became one of her happiest moments.

Nancy loved to try new foods and had recently warmed up to falafel and Middle Eastern fare at the urging of her son, although trying sushi was a bridge too far. For years, she worked to perfect the shortbread recipe passed down by her grandmother, Jeanie, a Scottish immigrant. It became a running joke that she would never make it quite as good as her grandmother’s (though everyone else would disagree).

On the morning of November 30, 2024, Nancy passed away peacefully at Strong Memorial Hospital, surrounded by family and friends.

Her passing will be grieved profoundly by those who knew and loved her, but the lasting memories and her sense of humor will live on in the hearts of all who knew her.


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4 responses to “Alongi, Nancy J.”

  1. Linda May Dianetti Alongi Avatar
    Linda May Dianetti Alongi

    Dear Joe, Michael,Lori,Al and family,
    Please accept our deepest sympathy for your loss of Nancy.
    Nancy was such a lovely girl with a beautiful smile and loving heart.
    May your precious memories of her bring you comfort and may she rest in peace.
    Sincerely,
    Chuck and Linda ( Dianetti) Alongi

  2. Josie Antonio Keller Avatar
    Josie Antonio Keller

    So heartbroken to see this….
    Sending much love to Joe, Lori, Al and the kids❤️
    Seeing Nancy’s beautiful big smile brought back all the marvelous memories of all of us Magnolia Avenue kids……
    Hagenbuchs, Dianettis, Herkos, and me!!
    Our Moms always together enjoying their daily conversation, coffee, and pastries as we walked in from a long day at school.
    We were blessed to grow up in wonderful families together as neighbors and friends!!
    Prayers and hugs,
    Josie Antonio Keller

  3. Chris Cleveland Avatar
    Chris Cleveland

    Dear Joe and Michael,

    I have so many memories of Nancy, I moved to East Rochester my freshman year of high school. It was not an easy transition. Nancy and I were in the same homeroom, and she made me feel comfortable and welcomed. I had the honor of being her maid of honor when she married Joe. We lost contact when I moved away, however, years later we reconnected and had an opportunity to spend time together!

    May she RIP knowing she was loved! ♥️

    Much love to the family!
    Chris Cleveland

  4. Missy McPhee Avatar
    Missy McPhee

    Dear Joe,
    It saddens our hearts to hear of Nancy passing. I have such found childhood / teenage memories of Nancy, Lori and Rose. God bless you and your son as you navigate through all this. With deepest sympathy and warm regards
    Missy McPhee

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