It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Daniel (Dan) Martin Kinsky, born on November 24, 1945 and departed from this world to be with our Heavenly Father on September 25, 2023.
Dan was predeceased by his parents, Frank and Mary Agnes Kinsky. He is survived by his wife, Sheila (55 years of marriage), his 5 children and spouses Dave (Barb) Kinsky, Mike (Tracy) Kinsky, Julie (Jason) Rucker, Maria (Brian) Frazer, Teresa (Brian) O’Dell; 11 grandchildren Matthew, Jonathan, Joshua, Michaela, Lindsay, Jackson, Alexander, Adam, Jilliann, Emily, Joseph; his sister Gail (Phil) Palermo; several nieces, nephews, grand-nieces and nephews, and his uncle Fr. Thomas Erdle, numerous relatives, and friends.
He was a graduate of McQuaid Jesuit High School, St. John Fisher University, and held an MBA from SUNY Albany. Professionally, Dan enjoyed a long and fulfilling 30-year career at IBM, and afterwards at two IBM partners. Dan worked as a systems engineer, where he demonstrated his exceptional dedication to customers.
For four decades, he served as an ordained Catholic Deacon at St. John of Rochester, Church of the Resurrection and Saint Ann’s Community. He worked tirelessly offering spiritual guidance and support to those in need. His homilies were marked by a simple yet profound statement of love and serenity that always ended with the comforting words, “peace be with you.”
Dan had a passion for swimming; he would swim regularly at the YMCA, Perinton Rec Center, area Pool clubs, or just about anywhere that had water! His consistent dedication and internal nature led him to compete in various swimming competitions including Senior Empire State Games. Dan also enjoyed numbers, golf, travel, sports, music, movies, games, and puzzles.
His trademark was his contagious smile, which was evident throughout his life as he touched the hearts of many.
In recent months, Dan faced a courageous battle with Pancreatic Cancer, displaying strength and resilience that inspired all who knew him. Dan received outstanding compassionate care by numerous doctors, nurses and others, especially at the Wilmot Cancer Institute and at the Palliative Care Unit at Strong Memorial Hospital.
Dan leaves behind a legacy of love, faith, and compassion. He will be deeply missed and forever cherished. In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that donations be made to Wilmot Cancer Institute https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/cancer-institute/giving.aspx or Saint Ann’s Community https://stannscommunity.com/donate-now/ in Dan’s memory.
Calling Hours will be held at Keenan Funeral Home in Egypt (Pittsford Palmyra Road) on October 1st from 1:00-3:00pm. A Mass of Christian burial will be held on Monday, October 2nd at 10am, at St. John of Rochester (SJR) in Fairport, NY. Reception immediately to follow. All are welcome to attend and celebrate the life of Daniel Martin Kinsky.
For those that cannot be with us in person, a live funeral link at SJR can be found at
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37 responses to “Kinsky, Daniel M.”
With prayers of consolation and with gratitude for Deacon Kinsky’s generous service and witness to God’s people….
I didn’t know Dan personally but was always struck by his kindness. The last time I saw him, he was processing into 11:00 Mass at St. John of Rochester. He was dressed in his white robe and sideways wearing of the deacon’s stole. He walked tall, smiling and proudly carrying the Word of God above his head. Yesterday, in thinking about him, I imagined that this was how he arrived in heaven!
A beautiful soul! He will be deeply missed!
Our deepest and sincere sympathy to Sheila and the entire Kinsky Family.
We have been blessed with their friendship for over 50 years. We have shared so many good times and some sad times. We were always there for eachother.
Dan’s smile was contagious. He will be so missed. Life won’t be the same without him. We trust he is now smiling down on all of us.
Peace and Love, Dan
Sheila and family,
My deepest sympathy on the loss of Dan. Such a wonderful man and my heart breaks for all of you. With love and prayers to get you through this hard time
Lauren Lombard
Dan was my cousin. As kids we were lucky to picnic with all our family at the Predmore Farm in Honeoye Falls, NY. Those are fond memories of games and good times and where we all first met his beautiful fiancé Sheila. I moved to Chicago, but occasionally I would come home and had the privilege of attending mass at St. John’s, where Deacon Dan would be giving a homily. Last January, he helped Father Tom officiate at the mass of Christian burial for our cousin, Joan. His homily was heartfelt and helped us be at peace as we celebrated her life. I am sure all the angels and saints came out to greet Deacon Dan as he entered heaven exclaiming with Jesus, “Well done, my good and faithful servant!”
My father, Pete Tierney, thought the world of Dan and Sheila. We were so pleased when they both participated in his memorial service at St Ann’s in June, 2018.
To Sheila and family – my thoughts and prayers are w/ you. Dan was a very special man. Hoping you find comfort and peace through wonderful memories and deep faith.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Being part of Dan’s family is a privilege, his warmth and caring is with us always. He made you feel special with his beautiful smile. Dan gave us the gift of renewing our vows sharing with us his faith and love. If only we all could follow his example in life, kindness is a language everyone understands. We love and respect all he stood for and will always feel him with us. To all the Kinsky Family we are with you together. Ron & Marti
Being part of Dan’s Family is a privilege, his warmth and caring is with us always. He made you feel special with his beautiful smile. Dan gave us the gift of renewing our vows sharing with us his faith and love. If only we all could follow his example in life, kindness is the language everyone understands. We love and respect all he stood for and will always feel him with us. To the Kinsky Family we are with you together. Ron & Marti Rucker
We were blessed to know Dan and Sheila through our affiliation with St. Ann’s. What a beautifully written tribute to a special man. Our prayers are with you.
To Sheila & Entire Family, We go back a number of years with the Kinsky Family and nothing but love, caring and faith-filled. Rest in Peace dear Friend Dan – you fought the good fight here on earth, but Heaven needed you totally healed and with our loving God. Always kind and a beautiful smile throughout. With love to all, Janet & Fran
Sheila and family,
As a friend of Mike, I was honored to meet you and Dan. The short time we shared time together I was awed and inspired by the love shared by your family. I send each of you peace during this time. Love always,
Eric and all of the Nelson Family
To Sheila & Entire Family. We go back a number of years with the Kinsky Family and nothing but love, caring and faith-filled. Rest in Peace dear Friend Dan – you fought the good fight here on earth, but Heaven needed you totally healed and with our loving God. Always kind and a beautiful smile throughout. With love to all, Janet & Fran Provino
My condolences to Sheila and the family. Dan was a wonderful, thoughtful, and compassionate man. I first met Dan when his parents were residents on the 5th floor of St. Ann’s and I was the Unit Secretary. Throughout my eight years there, our paths continued to cross either at the Home or in the Chapel and even though I was only an acquaintance, he always made me feel like I was a good friend. R.I.P. Dan.
Sheila, there are so many precious memories of the times we shared over 40+ years. The two of you have had a special place in our hearts, and in support of our marriage. As I said in my letter, one unique memory that comes up often is Dan breaking out into a chorus of “Glorious God, King of creation!” He did love to praise the Lord, and his faith was inspirational.
Much love to you and your precious family.
Frank S.
Sheila,
McQuaid, Fisher and his smile. We were and are blessed to have had him. Thank you for sharing him with us all.
God be with you my friend.
Gene Welch
Sheila, My condolences to you and your family. It was my pleasure being in yours and Dan company when I was at St. Ann’s. My husband just loved when you both took time to visit him. When he was deacon at St. Anns, he was always with a smile and I just enjoyed his homilies. Also, when I saw both of you walk in for Joe’s funeral mass at St. Ann’s my feeling for you both can’t be put in words. My Dan rest in peace and fly with the angels. God Bless you. Love, Gilda DeFranco and family.
Our deepest condolences to Sheila and Kinsky family. We were blessed to have met Dan and Sheila a couple of times on their trips down to Houston. The brief moments we shared were very special with a heavy heart Julio, Nick & I would like to extend our sympathy to everyone in the family, you are in our prayers . We ask God to give you strength and peace in your hearts in such a difficult time. May Dan R.I.P. rest in peace. Love Mora family
My heartfelt sympathy to Sheila and family. I will be forever grateful to Dan that he presided over my brother John’s funeral and showed such compassion to his family and all of us. He was a man of great faith and I am sure many souls were there welcoming him into heaven.
Donna Newcomb Koperski
Sheila +21,
As you already know, Dan was such an ‘upper’. Loved his cute smile and always his kind words. We have lost a true Christian Soldier that Preached it and more importantly Lived It. I will miss his homilies and the way he almost always weaved a family story in.
So sorry for your loss. Dan did the homily for my wife Joan in January. It was beautiful and much appreciated by my family and friends of her. He was a generous soul. God bless.
I had the privilege of working with Dan at IBM, I will always remember his wonderful smile and helpful attitude. He will be missed.
We’ve known the Kinsky family for many years now and it’s been a privilege to have them as part of our lives. Mr. Kinsky baptized our 3 kids and will always hold a special place in our family. The way that he weaved family and friends into his Sunday homilies showed God in our everyday lives. We’ll miss him.
We send our most sincere condolences to Sheila and the entire Kinsky family. Our young family moved one street away from the Kinskys. Dan baptized our babies at Church of the Resurrection, and we encountered one another as our little ones went trick-or-treating on those chilly Halloweens.
We will cherish Dan’s smile, warmth and joyful spirituality that was such a gift to us.
May God’s love be felt in every embrace you receive, and please know that so many others who no longer live nearby are praying for you.
Dan was my IBM SE for many years at R J Katz & Co. We even travelled to Chicago together to attend an IBM class. Dan was well informed, well mannered and a real professional. In the dictionary under Gentleman they have his picture. (Incidentally, his sister is married to my wife’s cousin, Phillip.)
My heart goes out to the Kinsky family.
Dan and I were friends in the grade school years in Pittsford and the early years at McQuaid. Yes I remember going swimming with him and the other members of our crew at the local pool. We had such fun together, and he was always a warm and caring guy so I am not surprised at the good work he did with others in his life.
Sending our deepest sympathies to Sheila and the Kinsky family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Deacon Dan was such a wonderful, welcoming and caring man. He will be missed.
Dear, dear Sheila and Family,
It was a privilege to work and minister with you and Dan in the early years. His gentle and strong care and wisdom, his easy positivity and understandable faith really made a difference to me and many .
May you have much peace as you celebrate this good man. Thank you for sharing him with so many of us.
God bless you all!
On behalf of our entire AWS family, please accept our deepest sympathies.
When someone passes it is customary to speak kindly of them, remembering their good qualities and positive traits. In the case of Dan that is an easy thing to do. He truly was a kind and humble man. Dan was present and always made people feel like they mattered. His gentle demeanor was evident to all those who knew him. Dan was my big cousin and a treasure to our family. We will miss him deeply.
Carol Shaffer
Dan was one of nicest persons I ever met, he was my IBM SE and friend for many years! We all enjoyed his quick and genuine smile, and his humble way. I recall many times him dropping off an IBM Redbook and chatting for a while on his way home, and his desire to get a quick swim in. We know you are already with our God! Prayers and Peace to the Kinsky family!
It was an honor to be trained by Dan Kinsky when I became a marketing manager at IBM. Goodness knows I needed him and he was so kind, patient, informative and reliable. One of the best of the best to work with. I didn’t know he was suffering with such an illness but am so glad our mutual friends reached out to me.
Wishing best wishes to Dan’s family and all the friends, who will miss him..
Saying prayers!
Oh I need a SE I didn’t put my name in correctly and used Sharon’s info to post my comments. Some blondes just never learn. I can see Dan’s smile from heaven and his look down at the floor at my mishap. God Bless you all.
Suzonne
Sheila and the family:
A serendipitous meeting with Jim and Peggy last Sunday alerted me to Dan’s failing health. Please know that all of you have been held in prayer this week as you released Dan into the loving arms of God. Deacon Dan will continue to bless all those he has touched over the years–his goodness lives on, not only in memory, but in a continuous chain of loving deeds. So sorry I cannot be present for his funeral, but I continue to hold all of you in my heart.
Dr. Monica Weis SSJ
Professor Emerita/Nazareth University
Dear Sheila,
My deepest and heartfelt sympathy as you mourn the loss of your wonderful husband, Dan. Forever shall I remember his kindness and compassion to my dear mother when she was at St. Ann’s. His warm smile always touched my mother’s heart and brought her so much joy. You two were the perfect team and heartbeat of St. Ann’s. May Dan now rest in Christ’s loving embrace and enjoy his well deserved heavenly reward.
In Mercy and love,
Sr. Carolyn Rosica, RSM
Dear Sheila and Family,
It’s so tough for our diaconate community to lose Dan. The two of you are GIANTS in the community! You have inspired us to embrace the servant’s call with joy and commitment.
Elena and Greg
Our hearts are heavy with Danny’s passing.
The Lord had an early plan, somehow choosing that my parents buy their new home next to the Kinsky’s in 1960.
They have been a part of our lives since.
Danny was my first crush … I was 5.
Seeing Dan and Shelia over the years always brought back special memories of the good old days,
We will forever remember his constant smile, his gentle demeanor, his complete devotion to Shelia, “the kids” and his beloved parents,
His devotion to the Lord needs no explanation. Surely, the Gates of Heaven opened immediately.
RIP dear friend. Prayers of comfort for your family are sent from ours.
Penny Decker and Family
Dan was a great guy. He was best friends and classmate of my brother Gary. And I grew up on Linden Street, one street over from where Sheila lived.
He always had a great, friendly smile and way about him. He was a good friend.
I am sure Dan is in heaven and in a high place.
God Bless You, Dan!
See you soon (I hope).
Ned